Not-So-Great Expectations: How Your Plan Gets in the Way of Your Happiness!

Another great article I ran across on my new favorite site JoyfulHope.org. This article Not-So-Great Expectations, How Your Plan Gets in the Way of Happiness by Erika Bugbee, M.A.,  at Pransky & Associates and the last article I posted How Come I’m Not as Happy as I Am Rich?, by George S. Pransky, PhD are very fitting to me at this particular moment in my life as I grapple with so much change and what appears to be loss. I say “appears” because really the feelings of disappointment, hurt and upset are largely due to the expectations I’ve created in my head or attached to the outcome of AlphaWomen.com. If it succeeded, I was a success. If it failed, I was a failure. What a an edge to fall from. How can I not be dissapointed with that mindset? These articles got me to start asking the right questions again. To think about what I am thinking and to take my power back over my thoughts and what meanings I infuse into them.

In my minds eye, my worst fears have been realized. I’ve lost everything in regards to material possessions and suffered some massive financial set backs, BUT I’ve gained so much more that I can’t put a price on. No amount of money would have given me back my peace of mind, a sane pace of living, a grateful heart, strong relationships with deep lasting connections with my loved ones, and a state of mind that when functioning at optimal levels sees life as a place of opportunity and happiness. I am much wealthier now then I ever thought I was!

I am so grateful that God speaks to us exactly in the moments we need to hear him. Both of these articles put my mind at ease and took me back to my wide lens perspective instead of my narrow minded thinking that always involves the worst possible scenarios built on fear.

I encourage you to read these articles and find out how your expectations are screwing up your happiness!